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 Thank you thewood31 for gifting me


these items off my wish list. I can't wait


to see Wisdom wearing the Bow Dress, and


decorate her room with the critter comforts!












If you are new to my blog I would first like to say THANK YOU for taking the time to read my sims stories. I'm currently blogging about a sim who just took on the 101 baby challenge and is now living life after the challenge. She is engaged to her boyfriend and together they have a little girl Wisdom. Violet found out that she had a brain tumor and had it removed promptly after completing her challenge. Wish her strength back and wedding in 2 months Violet is enjoying life after the challenge.

 

Violet and Ashby arrived back at the house after a fun filled afternoon of pampering, dress  shopping, and even stopped by the e-store to purchase a few things. Violet knew that Wisdom's  toddler days would soon be over and with help from a good friend (Lexi) she was able to  purchase the bedding set that she had pictured Wisdom having.


Still slightly annoyed by A.J.'s attitude towards her she was perfectly fine having Adabelle and  Ashby stay the night and have A.J. on the couch. "You know you have a theme now and so the  venue will be easier to find/build knowing that there is a color pallet and everything." Ashby  said pulling into Violet's driveway. "Yes, I know... I just think having A.J. help me build a venue  will assure its like what I've been picturing.  Violet then turned to see A.J. outside (in his p.j.'s) playing with Wisdom. She saw him in a new light. Ever since coming home from the hospital Violet has been all hands on deck feeling that she missed out on so much with Wisdom. But with all of that she forgot that A.J. had been doing everything for the period of time Violet couldn't. The late night feedings, every diaper changed, baths, and just telling her all about her mommy who missed her so much. Violet started to think maybe more kids would be nice.

Violet and Ashby where hungry and found that dinner time was quickly approaching the house. Violet was not in the fancy meal mood so mac and cheese, with a fresh salad would be pretty much it for today. Ashby got started on her famous Fresh Broccoli Salad. They could heard Adabelle and Wisdom talking to their "friends" in the living room. Wisdom named her friend aka IT Lilly while Adabelle called her's Boy. Violet and Ashby called in and asked if the four of them wanted a snack before dinner and the girls nodded like a bobble head. Violet cut a few extra pieces of cheese and Ashby gave them each a piece of broccoli. The girls smiled and even shared with their IT's.


Ashby put the salad in the fridge waiting for the mac and cheese to finish when Asher called her into the living room. Rolling her vampire eyes she looked at Violet and said "save me!" the two girls giggled and Ashby went to meet her husband for what ever it was he needed her for.

Asher was quite polite in telling Ashby that he loved her and that he had no right to try to make her feel like having more kids if that was truly what she didn't want. Ashby loved his gesture but knew that this would have to be farther discussed at home.  But in the mean time the flowers where beautiful and the two where able to enjoy the rest of their night at Violet's and A.J.'s house. "Ashby, I was talking to A.J. and he would like to have a romantic picnic just for him and Vi tonight. So we can have the same in here with the girls is that ok?" Ashby agreed that Vi and A.J. needed some time together.

A.J. escorted Violet outside to a fire pit. He had two chairs set up but Violet wanted to be stubborn and get her own chair. "Barbie I was out of line before. You have been through so much and to feel pressured by me to have a baby makes me no better than other men you have been with. I don't look at you as a challenge mom and I never have. You are the woman of my dreams with or without 101 kids. I'm blessed to have had Wisdom and if she is our only child together. I can live happily ever after." Violet smiled and knew that A.J.'s feelings and words came straight from his heart. She loved the fact he could be open about his feelings even if it took a fight for him to see things from her point of view. But that's allot of what marriage is about. You are constantly learning about the other person.

Feeling famished  Violet suggested they lay out the blanket and eat. A.J. wasn't one to argue after they both heard his stomach growl.  He made ham and cheese sandwiches with side dishes of pasta salad, water melon, and wine coolers as a beverage. The two where feeling better and Violet enjoyed the no pressure feeling they had once again. Violet opened up about idea for the venue they are going to build together and even discuss the theme she came up with. "I know we planned to build a house on the lot with the water fall, but I think that would be a great place for the wedding venue. We could build a reception hall and wedding right there over looking the waterfall. We own the lot we just need to get a building permit and go to town." A.J. was exited about the idea and was quick to add his opinion on shape, and layout. Violet wanted a few details that the church had that her parents where married in. She didn't want it to be wasted space after the wedding so they chose to turn it into a community lot. Violet then trailed into the idea of kids. A.J. about chocked on his sandwich when Violet brought the subject up. "Wisdom is a great girl and the house feels so empty without new kids coming in constantly. I don't want to be pregnant on the wedding day because my dress is..." A.J. stopped Violet and but humming a song loudly and plugging his ears. He didn't want ANY details about the dress.

Violet guided his hands down and continued " But if we wanted to try from now till a week before the wedding I'm ok with that." A.J. hesitated for a moment and then asked, "So Wisdom won't be an only child? and you want this because you want this not just because I want this?" Violet nodded, "I want this, you are a great dad and you are amazing to me. I couldn't ask for a better man to have asked me to marry him." Violet leaned over to kiss A.J. they then realized paparazzi was beginning to surround them and so they headed inside to begin trying for a baby.

 

Before meeting A.J. in the bedroom Violet peaked in on her little girl. Looking at her tiny finger, toes, and piggy tails she started to get excited about more kids. The house wasn't ready for a new baby with it only being 2 bedrooms so Violet began thinking about where they could add a hallway to build a nursery. After Ashby, Asher, and Adabelle left Violet and A.J. went on with their plan hoping to have a baby soon!

A new furniture shop opened so Violet and A.J. decided to check it out. They where not 100% sure on wanting to buy anything but it never hurt to look. Violet found a new couch and love seat set that she feel in love with immediately. A.J. wanted to look around to a few things that where on sale. They where having a sale on lawn furniture and even said they had chairs for rent to accommodate the upcoming wedding. This surprised A.J. and Violet since they had not told anyone at the store about the wedding. The sales girl pulled out a magazine and went into gossip mode. " You two made the cover of Challenge Mother's Monthly. It covers all the A list local events and celebrities."

Headlines are hard to see on this copy so I will type them here:


Baby 101! Violet's long term boyfriend becomes father of her final child....Pg.82
Violet Newbie Completes her challenge! Read exclusive interviews from Violet and her children.... Pg.101
On to a New Challenge! After finishing her Challenge Violet takes on a new challenge of planning her wedding...Pg.67
Read interview with Ashley Lemi as his support of Violet's challenge...Pg.14
Fighting BACK! Vioelt postpones her brain tumor surgery to complete her challenge... Pg.44

A.J. got excited when he saw a race car chair and base ball glove chair. "Well dear we are on a budget since we have a wedding coming up soon. I just don't see how we have room for these either." A.J. leaned back and said "Well a guy can dream right?" Violet nodded and sat down is a cute chair she pictured in the new baby's room.

 

Violet left after getting a disturbing phone call from the bridal boutique. There was an accident while making Violet's dress and its going to delay when she can pick it up. They said it should be ready at the end of August. Violet tried to stay calm about the whole thing but as well all know her wedding is in the middle of August not the end. A.J. purchased the love seat and then talked to the sales woman if she knew of any places that sold wedding gifts for the future bride. He wanted to buy something for Violet but wasn't sure what to get. And of course after popping her enormous bubble gum bubble she handed him a magazine with nighties and sexy outfits in it. She gave him a wink and A.J. walked away. This wasn't what he had in mind but maybe it could give him a few ideas.

A.J. walked in to a surprising sight. Asher and Violet playing around on the couch. Yes, they where playing a video game but as A.J. watched Asher would lean over and tickle Violet to get her to loose concentration or lean over her to block her view. A.J. knew that Asher and Violet had been friends for a long time but he couldn't help but think Asher very well could be flirting with Violet. Trying to make the "flirting" stop A.J. cleared his throat and asked "Where is your wife Ashby?" Asher jumped and Violet looked up at A.J. as if thinking what kind of question is that? "She is out shopping, and Violet invited me over to have a play date with Adabelle. I came over and we started to play our favorite video game." He said trying to focus on his game. Violet added, "You can get the jealousy out of your tone dear. Asher and I are friends you should trust us."  A.J. left the room but continued to keep a close eye on the two. "I'm not jealous" he mumbled to himself.  After Violet having so many babies with other guys A.J. can't help but feel a little insecure when she's with other guys. This is something he's been working on.

Violet excused herself and walked over to A.J. to find him on the phone. "Hi Leiah, yes I'm excited to help your challenge out. I have a few requests in front of you but I'm happy to get started. Thanks for asking me.... yep, ok bye for now!" A.J. hung up and let out and excited YES! Violet then popped in "So Leiah would like you to build her a house? That's wonderful news. We right now have Ashby, and Ashley who have also requested houses. Can we have all 3 done this month?" Violet asked getting her phone out to check her schedule. "Violet we are a great team and of course we can do this. Just keep focused on being Mrs. Lemi and leave the rest to me." he said pulling Violet closer.

"Barbie, I'm not jealous just... ok well I've had to share you with other guys before I'm just happy we are on our way to being married. With a family of our own. Speaking of family any signs of being pregnant yet?" A.J. asked going to feel her belly. "No, A.J. we aren't and you know it took us a few tries with Wisdom so I'm guessing it will take a few tries to conceive this one as well. I bet we will have 2 little ones at our wedding." Violet said with a smile.

Violet and A.J. started getting plans in order knowing Wisdom had 2 more days till she would be a child. The time has flown by and this hasn't been easy on Violet. She feels like there is still so much she wants to do with Wisdom before she's off to school, hanging out with friends, and even finding a boy friend. The thought of Wisdom growing up was a bit much for Violet to handle.

Thank you for reading and for supporting my blog. I'm really enjoying this site and I'm happy you all came along for the switch. I will continue to use blogger until after the wedding. Then I might just do little posts on the challenge blog and mainly use Talkingsims!

Thick and Thin

Before I get started I want to give a BIG thank you to Dawn Turner for gifting me with simspoints. I feel bad I didn't see this sooner and waited THIS LONG but I honestly looked right past that e-mail and it wasn't till she brought it to my attention that I realized I had them. You are truly a great friend and I love and support your blog! Thank girl I love you!

Thank you Ashby!

For the past weeks Violet has been trying to settle into life after her challenge. She is happy to report that the tumor was not cancerous and she will have to go back once a month for a year to have scans to make sure the tumor stays gone. She is relieved and happy to have that over and behind them for now. But life has yet more adventures to add to her journey of life. A.J. is set on them not changing the wedding date and so Violet is plugging away with only 2 months left to plan trying to get everything done...

"Look Wisdom, here comes Mrs. Grabby Hand!" Violet said getting Wisdom excited. It had been awhile since Violet felt so good, with energy, life, and freedom. Violet's hair was beginning to grow back in but was still short so she decided to add some extensions to it so that she didn't have to go through the "odd stage" of hair growing back in. Wisdom and Violet played many games till the sound of chimes filled the room. Wisdom got excited and started to wiggle out of Violet's arms, "Night, night time mommy," Wisdom insisted.

Violet turned on the music box, said their prayer and headed out of the room. A.J. stood there looking at her as if he wanted something. "WHAT?" Violet asked in a defensive way. " I want to talk to you about something but it should wait till morning." he answered opening the door to the bedroom. Violet rolled her eyes and walked through. Trying to get closer to Violet to have a little kiss or more A.J. cuddled in and rolled Violet to her back. This annoyed Violet, "A.J. not till we are married. I know I gave in with Wisdom but do you really want me to have all our kids now and not when we are married?" A.J. wasn't going to let down that easy and slowly slipped Violet's strap off her shoulder and leaned in to kiss it. "ASHLEY!" Violet pulled her strap back up and jumped out of bed.

A.J. didn't realize how serious Violet was and stood up when Violet wiped a tear from her cheek. "Barbie, what is really wrong? Its like you don't want to be with me or something. Is that the case?" He asked putting his pants on. Violet shook her head and embraced A.J. "I guess I don't know what I'm thinking. I just don't want to feel forced to age Wisdom and to have more kids. Just because I have 101 kids doesn't mean I have to have more. " Violet stopped herself from saying anything more. She wasn't sure she would come across the right way and she didn't want A.J. to think they wouldn't have more kids even though that was an option Violet was fine with.

Violet could hardly sleep next to A.J. knowing he wanted something she wasn't sure she would ever be willing to give him. She questioned even getting married knowing that if after marriage his pestering became more than Violet could handle she might not be able to handle it. When Violet's clock showed 5:57am she knew that Wisdom would be waking up soon. She didn't bother to wake A.J. and just started to get ready for her day.

But A.J. was well aware that Violet was missing and he got up shortly after her so they could talk before Wisdom was awake. "Violet, I still want to talk to you about a few things." A.J. said with a ting of hesitation. "A.J. you don't have to act weird around me. We had a little argument and I'm sure we will be able to talk more about it today but first I need my morning beverage to make me not so crabby for when Wisdom wakes up." Violet got her drink and sat down at the table. A.J. didn't want to wait to long so he grabbed a cup and sat down.

A.J thought it would be best if he started with the wedding and then talked about kids...

A.J.- So how is the wedding planning coming? Need any help?

Violet- Well, I wanted to be married in the same church as my parents but after calling the pastor there it burned down a few months back. So I'm to square 1 there. Della suggested an outdoor wedding but I have a feeling it will be to hot since we are getting married in August.

A.J.- Well we could check out some local venues like the art museum.

Violet- Yes, but there isn't allot of space at the art museum. My bridal party is up to 7 now and the guest list isn't getting any smaller.

A.J.- Let me know at anytime with what I can do to make this easier on you.

 Violet looked up as if to say that all you want to talk about but after seeing A.J. take a big gulp of hot espresso she had a feeling there was more.

A.J.- Barbie, I also wanted to talk about kids. I know that you say you don't want them now but think of Wisdom. She deserves to have a normal family setting and with that it could include 1-2 siblings.

Violet- WAIT... are you telling me that we aren't a family until we have more kids? We are a family and we are happy, well at least I thought we where. Wisdom doesn't know any better. She has 99 half siblings do they count or is the fact I've forgotten most of them means everyone else needs to forget them too?

A.J.- Violet you are over reacting... I'm just saying you are taking this the wrong way. I love Wisdom, I love you, and I love the 99 kids you had with other men. I'm not saying that we aren't a family but damn it Vi you know that I could never imagine life without you or the kids. Why would you think that I don't consider us a family I'm just saying that I want to have more kids and why not sooner than later? Why can't we have kids before we are married?

Violet- BECAUSE I WANT 1 THING TO GO AS PLANNED IN MY LIFE!

Violet stood up and put her cup in the sink. A.J. went to take her and but she brushed him off quickly. "Why can't you just let it go for now?" Violet asked A.J. walking past him. She didn't want to be angry but at the same time he wouldn't let it go. Violet needed to get out but where to go? Soon Ashby texted and was on her way over with Adabelle.

AUTHORS NOTE: Adabelle is a baby Ashby had in my game and is not one that will be mentioned in her blogs. But in my blog she will be considered Ashby and Asher's daughter.

Ashby showed up and when A.J. greeted her she walked right past him as if knowing him and Violet just had an argument.  Surprised that Asher wasn't with her A.J asked "Did you loose my brother?" Ashby lowered her shades and looked at A.J with her glowing vampire eyes, "He will be along shortly." and then put her shades back up and turned to Violet who was trying to get an energy filled Wisdom her breakfast.

Violet and Ashby went to the nursery. Violet knew that the sun was bothering Ashby's skin and wanted to make her comfortable. "Everything ok?" Violet asked Asbhy knowing things where weighing heavy on her. "I'm just not sure I want to have more kids. I love the ones I have and I love that Asher loves me but I still feel like he's not seeing things from my point of view." Ashby stated "Join the club, A.J is insisting we have more kids and I'm questioning why I would even consider that now knowing he is not able to hold back his woo hoo urges till we are married." The two girls where talking back and forth venting about the men in their lives when they heard the front door open and a familiar voice followed it. "Asher's here now!" Ashby told Violet picking Adabelle up. "Vi, is there anywhere we can talk but keep me out of the sun?" Violet thought and then said "SURE! I have a little outdoor deck that I have a shade thing that I can put over it. We will be outside but it will be like its night time!" Ashby followed Violet to the area and they didn't look or say a word to the boys while they talked in a low whisper.

"I can't get over how emotional Violet is. You would think she's pregnant or something." A.J began to tell his brother and best friend after the girls where outside. "SHHH, are these window's sound proof? They might hear you." Asher said leaning back to look out the door. "Yes, we are fine they can't hear us. But if we wanted to we could hear them!" A.J said perking up. "How?" questioned Asher. A.J pulled out the baby monitor and both of them laughed. "Well since she's acting like she's pregnant is there any way she could be?" Asher asked his brother now feeling comfortable to speak louder than a whisper. "No, and I have no clue if I will ever see her pregnant again. She's thinking about not having more kids." A.J said with disappointment in his voice. "Oh man bro that stinks. Ashby is saying the same thing. She just had Lockland and before that she had Taloria and Addison but her having Taloria and Addison wasn't easy. She didn't really want to have more kids after lose. I'm understanding to a point but why not have kids with your husband?" A.J. and Asher where on the same page and venting back and forth about their problems when A.J had an idea. "Well since we can't get into the girl's heads by asking lets listen in." He held up the baby monitor and the two grown men looked at each other. In wonder with what was being said outside.

"Vi I just wish there was a way we could explain to these men how we feel with out them saying we are over reacting, or that we are not listening to them." Ashby said getting excited for Wisdom on her pink horse. "I know, I love A.J. and I love that he wants to be with me despite my past but doesn't he realize I've been with so many men that having time with out being pregnant is something I've never had. Right now if I was still doing the challenge I would be trying to find a dad to get pregnant. So right now I DON'T want to be pregnant and maybe I was Wisdom out of the house before I have more kids." Violet set Adabelle in the sandbox and Wisdom wanted to join her.

The girls vented more about men, more kids, and enjoyed watching the girls play. Violet then brought up the wedding, "oh I want to do something with you and Della since you are both my main girls in this shin dig. We should do a spa day or something. Relax, escape married life, and get pampered." Ashby was quick to agree and the girls planned for tomorrow night. Ashby had another surprise for Violet and felt that it would tie in perfectly with getting pampered. "Vi, these men are lucky we love them." Ashby said with a smile noticing the baby monitor but didn't bother telling Violet. "Yes, they are but even more important we are lucky these men love us!" They got the girls and headed back inside.

With one quick phone call to Della and a small rearranging of plans Ashby and Violet handed the Wisdom and Adabelle to the boys and headed out to the spa. Della was visiting her daughter who recently moved to Sunset Valley and made plans to meet Violet and Ashby at the spa.

"This is what the Dr. ordered, huh ladies?" Violet asked enjoying her massage. Both girls agreed and Della was eager to hear about the wedding plans. Violet was happy to share that there was NOTHING planned just yet. She needed a dress first to base the wedding around. Della went went to say "Oh well that won't be a problem," but was quickly quieted by Ashby and Della began to laugh realizing Violet had no clue what was going to happen after they left the spa.

After a good 2-3 hours of being pampered from head to toe the girls where ready to head back to reality when Ashby and Della exposed their secrets with Violet. "Well you are not going home just yet Vi," Della said fixing her hair clip. Violet questioned her "well where else would we go?" Ashby and Della smiled and said, "Dress shopping!" Violet was shocked. She had no idea that they where going to surprise her with a trip to a bridal boutique to go dress shopping. But Ashby and Della where not telling Violet everything just yet. The drive to the bridal boutique was full of excitement. The 3 girls where talking about all the details such as they where going to have a private fitting since Violet is a 5 star celebrity and they didn't want paparazzi getting in there and spoiling all the good surprises. They also where happy to tell Violet that her entire bridal party would be there as well. This moved Violet to tears. Everyone was putting their lives, challenges, and afternoon aside to spend time with her and the dress shopping. Violet started to get butterflies when they pulled up to the bridal boutique and saw all her friends outside waiting for the bride to arrive.

Everyone got seated and where ready for Violet to get started on trying on dresses. The bridal consultant would like her identity kept secret so for now her name is Kate. Katie had Violet stand on the pedestal and describe in 1 word what she wanted to be on her wedding day and this puzzled Violet. It was a thought that had never crossed her mind. While looking at herself she said "Breathtaking" Kate nodded her head and got Violet's measurements and headed back to see what she could find. They had several "traditional" dresses and she knew Violet would look stunning in them but then thought of some other unique ones. Violet tried on a total of... well lets just say she tried on more dresses than she expected. But each bridesmaid pictured her in something different and Violet was willing to try them all.

Yes, as you can see both Kate and Violet got quite the work out with all these dresses. Violet didn't like some of the dresses even though she loved the designers.  Violet summed down the dresses she liked but there was 1 that actually brought tears to her eyes but the majority of the bridal party where fans of it. Violet didn't want them to see her cry and so she decided to put on the others that they did like one more time hoping one would grow on her.

Violet had so much fun posing in the different dresses. This one was a top contender. Violet loved it as well but felt the top looked like it should go with a different bottom. The flowers where pretty but maybe with a different top. It was hands down that this one wasn't going to make the cut in Violets eyes and after picking it apart Violet's friends agreed with her opinion.

"Violet, this is stunning, it has the bit of blue you wanted in it and you look fabulous in it. Not just anyone can look good in a dress like this." Where comments made by several of her friends. Violet Started to pick this dress apart comparing it to the one she had in mind when a very vocal friend spoke up saying, "Violet, seriously you want our opinion and we are giving it. If you don't like it then move on already." Violet didn't want to get upset and Ashby noticed the frustration on Violet's face. Ashby and the other friend talked and it was hard for Violet's friend to admit she was not understanding why Violet wasn't more positive. After expressing feelings everyone was ok and ready to move on.

This dress had nothing really wrong with it. Violet loved it from head to toe but it's such a common wedding dress all of her friends and her agreed she would just look like another bride. When Kate said she had another dress that was just shipped in that day and had not been worn by anyone yet. Violet kept her original first love in her mind when putting on this NEW dress. The girls waited on the edge of their seats wondering what this mysterious dress would look like.

It was fun, flirty, and even unique but Violet didn't feel "breathtaking" in it. With all her friends head over heals for this dress Violet began to cry and told her friends she can't do this. She ran to the dressing room and Ashby was quick to follow her. Kate asked the other girls to stay put and that she would talk to Violet and figure out what's going on. She walked in to Violet getting dressed and ready to leave. Ashby then stopped Violet before leaving.

"Vi, this is your day. We are all here because we love you. We have seen you grow and mature into the amazing mom, friend, and future wife you are today. You have over come more than your fair share of heart ships. The last thing we want is you to have a wedding that you look back and say what if. I want you to go get in the dress that we both know you love. I saw you cry and it made me cry. I knew your heart was set on it and after seeing it on you again in the RIGHT color everyone else will see what we see and if they don't they will lie and say they love it." Ashby leaned in and hugged Violet.

Kate walked up slowly and asked "are you going to call it a night or try this again?" Violet shook her head no. "I'm not going home and I want to put my wedding dress back on. Kate got the dress Violet liked and in the correct colors. Violet's friends all waited as impatient as could be. Violet walked out and again a tear fell from her eye. She knew this was the one.

Violet looked amazing, she could hardly believe that all the girl did love her dress and quickly put on the bridesmaid dresses Violet pictured with her dress. In that moment the whole wedding started to fall into place. Violet had her bridal party, her dress, and her theme. Violet was more than ready to get into full swing of WEDDING PLANNING!!!

Authors Note: With so many limited options for decorations, parties, and interactions the look of "copying" is very real but I assure you that I'm not copying. I'm simply using what the game gives me and what I have purchased to give me options for her wedding. I wanted to wait till after generations was released to have Violet married for a reason. I hope you all understand this and I look forward to seeing out everything turns out. I have a plan but you know how sims can be and do things on their own.